Open Relationship Agreement

Open Relationship Agreement

____________________________ (hereafter "Partner 1") and ______________________ (hereafter "Partner 2") hereby agree to the following:

Partner 1 and Partner 2, mutually desiring to be in a primary romantic relationship with one another, set down the following intentions not as rules or boundaries but as guidelines for how to treat each other and themselves in a mutually loving, respectful and communicative way.

Partner 1 is interested in seeking {single encounters, casual hook-ups, light dating, non-sexual romantic relationships, non-romantic sexual relationships, romantic and sexual relationships, no relationships other than Partner 2, another primary (integrated), another primary (non-integrated), a triad, etc.}.

Partner 2 is interested in seeking {single encounters, casual hook-ups, light dating, non-sexual romantic relationships, non-romantic sexual relationships, romantic and sexual relationships, no relationships other than Partner 1, another primary (integrated), another primary (non-integrated), a triad, etc.}.

Partner 1 is interested in knowing {everything/nothing/only salient details} about Partner 2's encounters and {is/is not} open to meeting or becoming involved with Partner 2's other partners.

Partner 2 is interested in knowing {everything/nothing/only salient details} about Partner 1's encounters and {is/is not} open to meeting or becoming involved with Partner 1's other partners.

Regardless of the preferences above, both parties agree to clear and honest communication with every step of this agreement. Neither party will assume that an action that has previously gone undiscussed is okay or not okay. Both parties will check in with each other often and be forthcoming if they start to feel uncomfortable, overwhelmed, or sidelined.

Both parties agree to always share their location with each other before an encounter and to use protection against STIs and pregnancy in the event of sexual contact during a casual encounter. In a more established arrangement, both parties agree to use protection against STIs until the new partner has received the results of an STI test.

Both parties agree to never participate in deception and to operate under the assumption of ethical non-monogamy. Lying, obfuscating or equivocating about the nature of encounters or new partners qualifies as deception. Both parties shall keep the other's preferences and concerns in mind, and neither party shall push for or demand a change that the other is uncomfortable or indecisive about.

Both parties agree to step back and reassess if either party becomes unhappy or uncomfortable with the current agreements in the relationship.

Both parties agree to never shame, deride, ridicule or threaten the other over their sexual and romantic needs and desires.

Both parties agree to use loving, non-violent language to communicate their own sexual and romantic needs and desires.

In witness to their agreement to the terms of this contract, the parties affix their signatures below:

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(Partner 1 signature and date)

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(Partner 2 signature and date)

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